Single Men

The question has been repeatedly brought up by many people regarding single men at the Meet & Greet so here's the painful unvarnished truth.

There are many single men out there who have a less than accurate view of what the Lifestyle is or isn't so we're going to try and clear a few of them up here.

Single Men are not neccessarily discouraged from attending this event however there are some things (and ground rules) you may want to know in advance.

We DO have single men at the event. Many of them are long standing friends who have been in the Lifestyle for a long time and are without a partner at the moment. They have been known to many of the people who attend the event and are regarded as friends.

Others have been vouched for and/or certified at one time or another by people who frequent the event or are on one of the swing sites.

Far too often we've encountered guys who think that because these people are swingers all they have to do is show up and they're going to get laid. Let's tell you right now...it's not going to happen.

The Lifestyle is primarily a "couple's" thing. There are some couples who enjoy having an extra male around from time to time but just because you're there isn't a guarentee that it's going to be your lucky day. We're aware that all single men think they're something special but the sad fact is...Single men are a dime a dozen and unless you're bringing something special to the table (and we're not talking about the size of your member here)...you're just going to be one more face in the crowd.

Here are a few things that will ABSOLUTELY guarentee you not getting anywhere at this (or other) event(s):

1) A Sloppy Appearance in both your clothing and your hygene.

2) Innappropriate touching. It's not a great way to make an introduction and unless they've made it clear they're interested...don't even try.

3) DO NOT under any circumstances lurk around waiting for opportunities to get women alone. The moment their male half leaves for a minute is not your chance to make a pass at a woman.

Here are three Cardinal Rules about the Lifestyle that will help you understand what's going on.

1) PEOPLE IN THE LIFESTYLE ARE NOT IN THIS BECAUSE THEY HAVE AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP. THEY'RE NOT IN IT BECAUSE THEY HAVE A BAD SEX LIFE EITHER. Asking a woman those questions are a sure fire way to get rejected.

2) THE WOMAN HAS ALLLLLLL OF THE CONTROL. Thinking otherwise will make it a very short evening of things for you.

3) NO and NO-THANK-YOU mean just that. It isn't personal and you shouldn't take it that way. There has to be a Physical/Mental attraction or it's just not going to happen. Standing there pleading your case will only assure you to be rejected further...not to mention possibly asked to leave the event.

A final Rule to follow:

If a woman is obviously single...treat her with respect and DO NOT pounce on her.

She is there as our guest and even though she's in the Lifestyle...she deserves to be treated well...not like the " Free Fuck" you might imagine her to be.

If you made it through all of this and you still would like to attend please feel free to do so and we hope you have success that may prove to continued success but please remember...because you're a single guy, your actions will always be suspect until proven otherwise.

The Event Administrators